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Highview Residences Kitchener welcoming new residents once again

Woman with her daughter having video call with her mother. Woman connecting with her mother on a video call while at home.

 

Sandra’s mom moved into Highview Residences Kitchener just before the COVID-19 pandemic hit Canada in March. In fact, as of mid-May, Sandra hasn’t had the chance to visit her mom in person. She’s only been able to keep in touch through the phone or by making a window visit.

But despite all this, Sandra says that her mom is thriving at Highview.

“When I speak to her on the phone, I get a very good sense that she’s happy,” Sandra says. “Often the staff will send pictures through texts to me. And I absolutely love that. Because she’s smiling.”

In one of the pictures, Sandra’s mom was getting a manicure. In another, she was doing a craft. “These were things my mother never did. And the fact that someone opened her up to that… that makes me so happy.”

Highview staff stepped up during the pandemic

“Highview is an excellent facility,” says Lynn, who is the substitute decision maker for Ed, a long-time family friend who also lives at Highview Kitchener. “Their staffing ratios have always been good. Even at the height of the pandemic, when they were short-staffed, everybody stepped up and did everything they could to make sure that our loved ones were looked after. That was so reassuring.”

Lynn contrasts Ed’s experience with her father-in-law’s, who’s been stuck in his room for a month at the retirement home where he lives in another town. “I understand why it has to happen,” she says, “but the only daily contact he has with someone from the staff there is when somebody comes in with a mask, gown and gloves and drops off his meals.”

Completely transparent during an outbreak

During April, Highview experienced a COVID-19 outbreak. It was in Blair Creek House, where Ed lives.

“I was so impressed with how they handled it,” Lynn says. “They were completely transparent from Day One.” That transparency included frequent Zoom calls with families and detailed emails every day telling them the status. “Even when it was bad, we were reassured because we knew what was going on.”

Rather than simply telling families “we’re dealing with this,” managers at Highview made them feel like part of the team.

Lynn said that it was really hard sitting on the outside. But, because the people at Highview stepped up and made things work under very trying circumstances, it gave her confidence that Ed was being well looked after.

“I think there are a lot of retirement and long-term care homes who could learn a lot from how things were dealt with at Highview,” she says.

Sandra’s mom lives at neighbouring Cedar Creek House. At the time, Sandra worried that the virus might spread from Blair Creek House. But it didn’t. The frequent Zoom meetings and email communication gave her confidence that the staff at Highview “were doing their jobs very well.”

“My dad will be better off there than anywhere else”

As if things weren’t complicated enough for Sandra, ten days after her mom moved to Highview, her dad was admitted to hospital. He has dementia, like her mom, and can’t return home.

Sandra very much hopes that he’ll be transferred to Highview.

“People might think, ‘Well, why would you put him in a place where there was an outbreak?’ And my response to that is, it could happen anywhere. It’s no fault of staff, no fault of lack of procedures. It is a function of a horrible, horrible virus that we don’t know everything about. And I know that – because of what I’ve seen with my mom and how well she’s doing – I know my dad will be better off there than anywhere else. Pandemic or no pandemic.”

Lynn feels the same way. “The level of care, particularly for people with dementia, is fantastic.”

Can we protect our elders better in our own homes?

Lynn acknowledges that people may be reluctant to consider moving a family member into Highview during the pandemic. “There’s this sort of gut reaction that maybe we can protect our elders better in our own homes, but I don’t know that’s exactly the case.”

“Anyone of us could bring COVID into the house,” she says. “And what happens then? What. Happens. Then. That was the big factor for us in saying, ‘OK, we know COVID is there, but we know these people are professionals, and they are far better equipped to deal with those eventualities than we are.’”

Experts in dementia care

Plus, Highview is far better equipped to help someone with dementia.

Sandra’s mom had support from home care before she moved to Highview, but it wasn’t enough. “Despite the help my mom had in the home,” Sandra says, “she still wasn’t taking her medications, and the people we had coming in were not experts in the field of dementia so they didn’t have the skills to help my mom take the medication if she didn’t want to.”

“Anyone who places their loved one in Highview should have a feeling of assurance and confidence that these people are professionals,” she says. “They know what they’re doing, they’ve proven that, and I have every faith and confidence in them.”

“The level of care that residents get at Highview is far superior to anything that we’ve seen in the other retirement homes,” Lynn says, adding that although Highview may seem more expensive on the face of it, when you add up all the costs at other retirement homes for a comparable level of care, it’s right in line with anything else.

Re-opening to new residents

Highview Residences is pleased to announce that it’s once again welcoming new residents. “I’m really proud of our team,” says Katlynne Elgie, General Manager at Highview in Kitchener. “Our re-opening plan does a great job of keeping everyone who lives and works here safe and happy.”

For more information,
contact Joy Birch at
joy@highviewres.com

Making decisions for a family member who has dementia

How a Power of Attorney for Personal Care works in Ontario and what that means in practical terms when making decisions for someone who has dementia

You’re concerned that a family member who’s living with dementia isn’t taking care of themselves properly. When you broach the subject, they don’t think there’s a problem. Everything is fine as far as they’re concerned. They don’t understand why you’re making such a fuss.

You’re not reassured. Recent events don’t bode well. Maybe the person hasn’t been eating, or they’re not taking their pills, or they’re getting lost, or they’re becoming socially withdrawn and depressed.

You suspect they don’t want to admit there’s a problem. There’s also a good chance that they simply don’t remember the incidents or behaviours you’re so concerned about. You begin to wonder whether it’s still safe for them to make decisions about the care and support they receive now and in the future. And you’re worried that if you or another family member doesn’t step in soon, something will happen, something very bad.

Stepping back before stepping in

If safety is an issue, you’re right to be concerned. Your family likely should get more involved. However, before “stepping in,” it’s important to take a step back and ask yourself the following:

  • Are you concerned because the person with dementia isn’t able to appreciate the risks they’re facing?
  • Or are they aware of the risks and you’re really concerned about their unwillingness to address them?

Just because you don’t like a decision a person is making (or not making) doesn’t mean you can overrule them, even if they have dementia. Each of us has the right to live at risk so long as we’re mentally capable of making that choice.

When is a person considered incapable of making decisions?

So, when is a person considered mentally incapable of making their own decisions?

According to Ontario’s Office of the Public Guardian and Trustee, a person is incapable of making personal care decisions when they “can’t understand the information that is relevant to the particular personal care decision or can’t appreciate what could happen as a result of making a certain decision (or not making a decision) about the matter.”

Personal care decisions can be about things like medical treatment. They can be about where the person lives, what they eat, who helps them dress and wash themselves, what they wear, who ensures their safety. That sort of thing.

I’ll use a case example to illustrate. Wilfred has dementia when he develops kidney disease. A nurse educator spends a session teaching him what he needs to know about his kidney disease. When she asks him to repeat back what he’s learned from her, he can’t recall a thing.

In other words, he can’t understand the information that was relevant to managing his own kidney disease. This means that he’s incapable of making informed decisions about any treatment he might be offered for his kidney disease.

A person may be capable of making certain decisions but not others

It’s important to understand that even if a person isn’t capable of making a particular type of decision, it doesn’t automatically make him incapable of making other decisions.

In Wilfred’s case, although he isn’t capable of making decisions about the treatment of his kidney disease, he is still quite competent at making the routine decisions all of us make as we go through our day. Deciding what to wear, when to shave, when to have a bath, what to eat, that sort of thing. He continues to live on his own and remains quite active.

Who determines whether a person is capable?

Many people will designate someone to make personal care decisions for them in the event they become incapable.

In Wilfred’s case, that’s his son, Phil.

Before he had dementia, Wilfred completed a Power of Attorney for Personal Care which named Phil as his substitute decision maker. Phil is expected to step in and make personal care decisions on his dad’s behalf, but only if his dad is incapable of making them himself.

But who determines if Wilfred is incapable of making a decision? Generally speaking, that would be Phil, the person with his Power of Attorney for Personal Care. There are a couple of exceptions, though. If the decision is about medical treatment or admission to a long-term care home, a health care professional has to decide whether Wilfred is capable of making the decision himself.

Wilfred’s kidney disease progresses, and his nephrologist offers him dialysis. Phil tries to tell the nephrologist that his dad isn’t capable of making that decision himself (based on what Phil witnessed in his dad’s session with the nurse educator). But the nephrologist has the conversation with Wilfred anyway.

Wilfred gives the impression that he’s following along and taking in everything the nephrologist is telling him. But the nephrologist soon figures out that Wilfred isn’t able to retain any relevant facts about dialysis and isn’t capable of giving informed consent. The nephrologist is obliged to ask Phil to make the decision as his dad’s substitute decision maker.

Phil is a little frustrated. He doesn’t see why the nephrologist couldn’t have simply taken his word that his dad was incapable of consenting to dialysis. But because the decision was about a medical treatment, the nephrologist was the one responsible for determining whether Wilfred was capable, not Phil.

Incapacity isn’t necessarily permanent

But why couldn’t the nephrologist simply have consulted the nurse educator’s notes and realized that Wilfred was incapable of consenting to dialysis himself?

Here’s the problem. The ability of some people with dementia to think clearly can fluctuate from hour-to-hour or day-to-day. Even though Wilfred couldn’t understand his kidney disease during the session with the nurse educator, the nephrologist can’t necessarily assume that the same is true now.

Who decides when there’s no Power of Attorney?

If a health care professional determines that a person is incapable of consenting to treatment and there’s no Power of Attorney for Personal Care, they will turn to someone else to provide the consent on the person’s behalf. In Ontario, there’s a hierarchy of people who can act as substitute decision makers.

Simply being a person’s relative doesn’t automatically make you their substitute decision maker. Check the hierarchy for clarification.

Deciding on someone’s behalf

When it falls to Phil to decide whether or not to consent to his dad receiving dialysis, he needs to consider a couple of things. First, did Wilfred previously express wishes, while he was still capable, about the decision he’s entrusting Phil to make on his behalf in this sort of situation? If Wilfred did, then Phil is obliged to try to follow those wishes.

But that isn’t the case. So, what Phil needs to do instead is act in Wilfred’s best interests. Phil has to weigh the pros and the cons of dialysis and understand the ramifications of consenting to it – or not – on his dad’s behalf.

Considering a move

Eventually Phil becomes concerned about his dad living on his own in another city. Wilfred isn’t taking his medications regularly, even though Phil got his dad’s pharmacist to dispense his pills in blister packs that indicate when he should take them. Wilfred also went missing one day. Fortunately the police found him.

It seems to Phil that the best course of action is for Wilfred to move to some kind of assisted living community that is skilled at supporting people with dementia. Wilfred lets Phil take him on a few tours and they’re able to discuss what Wilfred likes and doesn’t like about each place. But when Phil suggests his dad move to a place close to where he lives (650 km away), Wilfred digs in his heels.

Not an easy decision

Persuading a parent with dementia to move isn’t easy. Sometimes persistence and patience pay off in the end, but not always.

If Wilfred continues to resist pleas for him to move, Phil may need to turn to professionals for help. Wilfred is in serious jeopardy, after all. The fact that he’s not taking his medications is a serious health concern. And if he’s gone missing once, it’s very likely he’ll go missing again. It’s important to note that half of people with dementia who go missing for 24 hours or more are seriously injured or killed.

Phil decides that his dad should move to long-term care. Even though he has a Power of Attorney for Personal Care which allows him to determine whether his dad is capable of making most personal care decisions, when it comes to making a decision about long-term care (or medical treatment), a health care professional needs to be involved. Wilfred’s family physician confirms that Wilfred is incapable of making this decision himself. That’s because Wilfred can’t appreciate what could happen if he continued to live on his own.

Although Phil is now in a legal position to get his dad admitted to a long-term care home against his will, he’s understandably ambivalent about taking that step. He doesn’t want to strip his dad of his dignity and independence. He’s also aware that if he doesn’t act, his dad is at risk of becoming seriously ill or dying.

He needs support taking the next steps. How does he choose the right home for his dad? What should he tell him? How would a move to long-term care even work, given his dad’s resistance?

Supporting you through the process

If you’re considering moving a family member with dementia to long-term care in London or Kitchener, Ontario, contact the folks at Highview Residences. They can help you work out your next steps. They take the time to understand your situation and help you through the decision-making process. The support they provide is both practical and emotional.

Get in touch with Joy Birch at joy@highviewres.com or 1-844-700-3734. She’d be pleased to offer whatever advice and support she can.

 

Special note: Laws about consent to treatment and substitute decision makers vary by province and country. This article only applies to the province of Ontario.

 

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My parents with dementia won’t move into a care home

What happens in Ontario when a person with dementia is unsafe living in their own home but refuses to move?

One day in December 2017, Dave got an email from his brother Pete telling him that their parents in Mississauga weren’t doing well. Pete had dropped by for a visit. He’d noticed they hadn’t been eating. They’d also been consuming a lot of wine.

“They had a wine cellar,” Dave remembers. “They knew it was dinner time and they’d get wine but wouldn’t make dinner.”

Their mom had been diagnosed with dementia years before. Their dad was her primary caregiver. His dementia came on more quickly.

Dave lived an hour away in Kitchener. He went to live with his parents for about a week. He realized they couldn’t look after themselves.

“They could get up in the morning,” Dave says. “They could get dressed. They could do all that kind of stuff, but they couldn’t make the meals, and they’d both lost a lot of weight.”

Worried about their deteriorating health, Dave suggested that they move into a home, but they refused to consider it. His mom went so far as to say, “You may as well kill me.”

Who decides?

Although Dave and Pete had a power of attorney (POA) for personal care for their parents, it didn’t automatically mean they could make their parents move into a care home against their wishes. In Ontario, someone with a POA for personal care is only allowed to make a decision about long-term care if a medical professional or evaluator finds a person mentally incapable of making the decision for themselves.

Which is why Dave and Pete got their parents’ mental capacity assessed by their parents’ family doctor.

According to Ontario law, the job of the family doctor wasn’t really to decide whether Dave and Pete’s parents were safe living in their own home. It was to decide whether they recognized the risks they were facing and understood the reasonably foreseeable consequences of not moving into a care home.

It’s a fine distinction, but an important one. Just because a person is in an unsafe living situation doesn’t mean they can be removed from that situation against their will.

In the end, the family doctor determined that because of their dementia, Dave and Pete’s parents didn’t have the mental capacity to make the decision for themselves. Dave or Pete were responsible for making the decision for them.

Now what?

Just because Dave and Pete were in a legal position to act in their parents’ best interests didn’t make what came next any easier.

“It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done in my life,” Dave says. “I’m not sure how to describe the feeling that goes along with taking the people who raised you, the people who you looked to for guidance your whole life… taking their independence away from them. It’s almost overwhelming.”

Dave contacted Joy Birch, Chief Operating Officer at Highview Residences. Highview had just opened a home in Kitchener and could accommodate both his parents in one room.

Together, Dave, Pete, and Joy worked out a plan for moving Dave’s parents into Highview that would cause the least amount of distress for everyone.

“We recognize that when people move into Highview it’s an emotional day,” Joy says. “For the person who’s moving in (particularly if it’s not their idea), but also for the family. We do everything we can to make the person feel welcome and the family feel supported.”

“Highview’s been amazing,” Dave says. “I’d recommend them to anybody. Their staff is phenomenal.”

Looking back

Even though the decision to move his parents was a very difficult one, Dave is certain that if he’d left them in their own home, they would have died there. In fact, he wonders whether his family should have acted faster than they did.

“But the other side of it is my parents are both strong, independent people,” he concedes. “My dad worked his way up to a vice president of Imperial Oil, so there was no one going to push him around. It almost had to play out the way it played out.”

His advice for families in a similar situation?

“Don’t delay. Don’t just put things down to ‘well, people are old and they start to lose their memory.’ You need to recognize what’s going on and act fast.”

Considering dementia care in Kitchener or London, Ontario? Contact us at Highview Residences. We’d be pleased to offer whatever advice and support we can.

Engage at every age

We are excited to introduce intergenerational activities at Highview Residences

On January 2, our residents enjoyed reading stories with the youngest generation.  The children were able to practice reading to a group and to individual residents.

The residents were so pleased to spend time in the innately joyful presence of children.  There were many smiles and a feeling of pride.  The residents were able to connect with the children and celebrate their accomplishments as they completed their books.

At Highview Residence we are excited to include more intergenerational programming.

Indepth CBC Interview with Kait Carnegie

Kait Carnegie, Activation Co-ordinator of Highview Kitchener, was recently interviewed by the CBC to discuss the importance of visiting loved ones with dementia during the holidays. Click here to read the full article. 

Gift ideas for someone with dementia

If someone on your holiday shopping list has dementia, here are a few tips on how to find a suitable gift.

Early stage gifts

If the person is in the early stages of dementia, consider gifts that will keep their minds active or that will make life easier for them. Keep in mind that just because a person has dementia doesn’t mean their interests have changed.

• Books and magazines on topics that interest them. If reading has become a problem, try an audio book.
• A personalized music playlist loaded on a music device. Hearing favourite tunes from their past will stimulate memory and increase brain function.
• DVDs of favourite TV shows or movies. If they use a streaming service, you might want to buy them a gift card for that service.
• Personalized scrapbooks or photo albums will help them hold on to memories of significant people and events in their life.
• Puzzles and games are good for stimulating the brain. They might be simple or more challenging, depending upon the person’s cognitive abilities.
• A phone with large numbers and simple features may be easier for them to use than their current multi-feature, cordless phone or cell phone.
• Introduce them to an activity or exercise program that will keep them physically active and socially connected. Offer to go with them the first time or on an ongoing basis.
• Make a gift of your own time. Take them out for coffee, or shopping, or a show. If you live nearby, consider making it a regular date.

Mid-to-later stage gifts

If the person is in the mid-to-later stages of dementia, some gift ideas from the list above can be adapted.

• Books and magazines – Choose shorter stories. Read aloud to the person.
• A personalized music playlist loaded on an iPod – Familiar music can still revive old memories and improve mood, even in the later stages of dementia. Gentle music and calming sounds can have a soothing effect.
• Personalized scrapbooks or photo albums can still be used as a topic of conversation – and thus promote socialization – particularly if names and ages of people in the photos are labeled.

In the more advanced stages of dementia, a person may develop restless hands, particularly if they’re used to doing crafts, working with tools, or playing a musical instrument. At this stage, some of the following gift ideas may be a good choice.

A twiddlemuff is a hand muff with soft bits and pieces attached inside and out that provides an entertaining way for the person to occupy their hands. You can buy one from a specialty store or knit one yourself.
An activity box. For instance, a small toolkit-sized box made up a several small doors with locks that can be latched and unlatched.
A set of PVC tubes with connecting joints. The person can use it to build all sorts of interesting structures.
A lifelike stuffed dog or cat. The person may find this calming, particularly if they’ve owned a pet in the past.

Do you have other questions about supporting someone with dementia? Get in touch with us at highviewres.com. We’d be happy to help.

Visiting someone who has dementia – 7 practical tips

Someone you know has dementia. Maybe it’s a friend or family member. It’s been a while since you’ve seen them. You’re not sure that it’s a good idea for you to visit. Are they really still the person you knew? Wouldn’t it just be awkward?

It’s easy to let this kind of uncertainty keep you away. It’s hardly surprising then that social isolation can be a big problem for people living with dementia.

So, how can you get past your doubts and stick by your friend or relative when they need you most?

With the assistance of Kait Carnegie, Activation Coordinator at our homes in Kitchener, we’ve put together 7 tips to help you prepare for a visit and make it as enjoyable and meaningful as possible.

1. Consider visiting early in the day

Many people with dementia are at their best from mid-morning to early or mid-afternoon. After that, they may be prone to restlessness and confusion, a phenomenon known as sundowning. Not everyone follows the same pattern, though. Check with the person’s family to see when it might be best for you to visit. Keep in mind that most individuals with dementia tend to get tired later in the day, so dropping in for supper may not be the best option.

2. Let go of the urge to correct

The first thing to realize is that you may not be able to have the same kind of conversations with the person as you did in the past. If they forget something you just told them, avoid correcting them or saying things like, “We talked about that just a few minutes ago. Don’t you remember?” Chances are they genuinely don’t.

A better response is to acknowledge what they’ve said and then casually change the topic. Let go of the desire to correct them. It’s not going to help them, and it’s likely only going to frustrate you. The sooner you recognize that expecting them to behave “normally” is an unproductive exercise, the more likely you’ll have a successful visit.

3. Realize that fibbing is okay

In the same vein, there are times when it’s perfectly okay not to tell the truth, particularly if the truth is upsetting. It’s best to say things that comfort rather than distress the person, even if it means telling little white lies.

For instance, if the person you’re visiting asks after someone they love, and you know their loved one died a year ago, reminding them of the death will only make them relive their grief. Instead, come up with a positive, plausible cover story that comforts them.

Kait offers an example. She remembers a resident who kept asking when his deceased wife was “coming home.” She responded by telling him things like “Oh, she went for physio” because that was something his wife used to do. Or “Oh, she went out for lunch with the girls. You know that they like to talk a lot, so we don’t know when she’ll be home.”

He might ask the same question several times a day. Telling him the truth would simply have made him re-experience the loss of his wife anew each time he asked the question.

4. Use objects and activities

If just sitting and talking is difficult, spend time doing an activity together when you visit. Dementia care homes have a variety of activity supplies on hand that you may be able to borrow. Among the many things that Highview keeps on hand are short stories and binders of trivia. Both can be used to encourage conversation and reminiscing. For instance, a piece of trivia or part of a story might prompt you to say something like, “Hey, I remember when you used to bake me an apple pie. That was my favourite thing about Thanksgiving.”

Photo albums are another great conversation starter. Maybe the person you’re visiting has an album with lots of vacation pictures. You can say things like, “Oh, you went on a cruise. Did you ever get seasick? What was your favourite part? Did you like the water? the sand?” Some families will even label photos with people’s names and ages.

Kait says, “Just because the person you’re visiting may not be able to tell you things in chronological order, that doesn’t mean you can’t talk about the memories that you share with them.”

If you still don’t know what to do during a visit, then drop in and have a meal with the person. Many dementia care homes have pay-as-you-go options for visitors. Sit at their regular table. Socialize with the people they’re socializing with. Use the meal as a topic of conversation.

5. Don’t be afraid to bring children with you

If you have children, you might be hesitant to bring them along for a visit. But according to Kait, they’re actually the easiest topic of conversation. Anyone who’s been a parent, even if they have dementia, will likely remember what it’s like to care for children. Their parenting instincts tend to click in.

They can do activities with the kids like colouring or crafts. They can have tea and cookies with them. Or they can just watch them play. It makes the visit easier. And if it’s their grandkids or other relatives, it brings the family together.

6. Offer practical help to the family caregiver

If you’re visiting someone in their own home, it’s a chance to show support for their primary caregiver, be that their spouse or an adult child. Often, practical offers of support are the most readily received. Offer to pick up some groceries. Or make a meal. It’s one less thing the caregiver will have to do themselves.

You can also offer to give them some time to themselves. As you visit, the caregiver might use the time to have a rest or catch up on laundry. Consider taking the person with dementia out for a country drive, Kait suggests. “Take them to Tim Hortons and get a coffee. If it’s nice out, you could take them out to the park for a walk.” If they rely on their primary caregiver for constant support, bring the caregiver along. At least it will help both of them get out of the house.

7. Don’t give up

If your visit doesn’t go well, don’t be discouraged. Just because the person gets agitated or restless or doesn’t seem happy to see you, don’t take it as a sign that you shouldn’t visit again. It might simply have been a bad day for them. Things may be better the next time you see them. Try again.

Do you have other questions about supporting someone with dementia? Get in touch with us. We’d be happy to help.

Planning for the holidays when your spouse has dementia

The holidays can be overwhelming at the best of times, but when your spouse has dementia, they can be especially stressful.

“The holidays are a time when there tends to be a lot of people around,” says Joy Birch, Chief Operating Officer of Highview Residences. “We have a lot more activities happening, we definitely have a lot more fancy lights, and it just tends to be a time when there are greater expectations on everyone, but particularly on that person who has dementia.”

Joy suggests modifying your plans as a family to make it easier for the person with dementia, as well as yourself, even if it means changing up some time-honoured traditions.

Holiday dinner

Big family gatherings may now be too much for your spouse to handle. Consider scaling things down. Instead of dinner, have small numbers of people visit for lunch or mid-morning coffee with treats. (People with dementia are often at their best in the morning and mid-day.) Consider wearing name tags or placing cards in front of plates. See whether one of your visitors is willing to act as your spouse’s buddy during the visit. That will give you more of a chance to socialize with others.

Decorations and music

Bright lights and holiday music may overload your spouse’s senses. Turn off some of the lights and turn down the music. Reposition or remove any decorations that could be trip hazards.

Manage your family’s expectations

Encourage your family to do go with the flow. If your spouse says something that’s incorrect or repetitive, ask them to let it go. Warn them that a visit may have to be cut short if your spouse gets tired. But let them know that even if your spouse may seem distracted or confused at times, it’s wonderful that they’re visiting.

Highview Residences’ homes in London and Kitchener are small, warm, inviting, and specially designed for people with dementia. Visit www.highviewres.com or call 1-844-700-3734 for more information.

A new approach to dementia care

Two years after building the first residence in the Kitchener-Waterloo region specifically for people with Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias, Highview Residences has built a second.

The new Cedar Creek home, located at 20-C Reichert Drive in Kitchener, officially opened on Thursday, October 24.

“It really is one of the best options for dementia care that we have in our region,” said Michelle Martin, Executive Director of the Alzheimer Society of Waterloo- Wellington. Because of Highview’s special person-centred approach to care, residents feel like they’re at home. And that takes a huge load off their families.

The home is small, warm, and inviting. Only 28 residents will live at Cedar Creek, which is divided into two cottages with a private bedroom and bathroom for each resident.

Life at Highview doesn’t follow a standard schedule for everyone. Residents can wake up, have breakfast, and get dressed when they’re used to. They can choose to take a walk in Highview’s secure gardens, watch a favourite TV show, enjoy art or music, or help out in the home.

In November 2017, Jane Klugman, President at Whitney & Company Realty Limited, moved her mom into Blair Creek house, Highview’s first home in Kitchener. “It’s been great for all of us,” Jane said. “We know our Mom is getting amazing care. We get regular reports that are very detailed. The whole team at Highview is very welcoming, and I know my mom is well looked after. In fact, she is more than well looked after. We’re thrilled.”

“We help families make the transition of moving their loved one from their current home to a new home, one that has been designed to help make their lives easier and enable their independence,” says Joy Birch, Chief Operating Officer of Highview Residences. “Our approach is to help our residents navigate their day, with a guiding hand and love, encouraging them to do as much as they can. We support them when and how they need it, specific to their interests and life-story.”

Highview provides a failure-free environment, according to Activation Coordinator Kait Carnegie. Part of her role is to get to know each person’s interests and abilities. “If someone wants to help bake, that’s great. But if they simply want to sit, have a cup of tea, or share recipes, that’s okay too.”

“My main goal every day is to put a smile on someone’s face,” she said. “It’s to make sure that every day our residents wake up feeling loved and cared for.”

“Staff care deeply about what matters to the residents,” said Mary Pat Hinton, CEO of Emmetros, the creator of MemorySparx Connect, an innovative app that allows family to easily and securely share important personal life details and preferences of their loved one, share and receive daily updates, and chat with the people on the care team at Highview.

Building design is also key to Highview’s specialized care. In addition to being small and welcoming, the home has many dementia design features, including short hallways, calming colours, and clear sightlines. Both cottages have an enclosed garden with a figure-of-eight path to always bring the resident back home. All the wood furniture in the residence was sourced locally and is specifically designed to be appropriate for dementia care. The sights, sounds, and smells of home-cooking in the open-concept kitchen help with sensory cueing.

As much as the home is a nurturing setting, security is always a priority. The buildings have been designed to keep residents safe. Staff members are present at all times, day and night, and the home is fully secured.

The first Highview Residence was built in 2002 in London, Ontario by Cathy and Ross Chapin as a result of the personal struggles they endured when trying to find a peaceful place for Cathy’s parents to live after her father was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease.

A select number of rooms are now available at the new home in Kitchener. For more information or to book a tour, visit highviewres.com or call 1-844-700-3734.

Joy Birch

Chief Operating Officer Highview Residences highviewres.com

Joy Birch is the Chief Operating Officer of Highview Residences: a specialized care home for people with dementia. Joy draws on personal experiences, research and (mostly) the stories of the families she meets every day, when helping them navigate the process of finding a home.

The Stages & Steps to Picking a Dementia Home

The hope for this article is to provide you some tools, resources and thought-starters to help support your search for a Home for your loved one who has dementia. Feedback is welcome! Let us know how you’re finding it works for you.  Download, save it, print it, forward it – we hope it’s helpful.

There are five stages involved in choosing and moving your loved one who has dementia to a home, however, everyone is different and so your journey may be different also! Through years of working with families as they navigate this part of the journey we have generally found these are the Stages.

  1. Discovery – Info gathering
  2. Financial Review
  3. Home Visits
  4. Saying Yes and Moving Day
  5. Saying Yes and Moving Day 5

Stage 1 – Discovery and Information Gathering

This stage can be longer depending upon how much time there is between diagnosis and decision-day. The goal of this stage is to learn the terminology, benefits and features of different homes. Depending upon how much time you have, then you may want to make the following lists to organize your Discovery:

 

A) Online research – input words like: “dementia + home + city name [the city you would like the home to be in] and see what homes come up – that’s a good place to start. Note the list and start to look at each home. What are the top three (or five) homes listed?:

  1. ___________________________
  2. ___________________________
  3. ___________________________
  4. ___________________________
  5. ___________________________

 

B) Word-of-Mouth and Conversations

Do you know anyone who has recently walked this path of caring for someone who has dementia? If yes, make a list and find a way to reach out to them and ask them some basic questions about what home they were happy with and if they have any advice? It would be good to ask them: “what was really important to you when you were looking?”

  1. List of homes
  2. Any advice?
  3. What was important?

C) Trusted sources

Who would be on your list of trusted source for information and would you be able to ask them if they can suggest or recommend a home for people with dementia?

 

  Name: Phone #: Their Suggestion:
Lawyer
POA
Family Doctor
Estate Planner
Financial Planner
Minister / Priest
HomeCare Agency
Social Worker
Neurologist
Geriatric physician
VON
LHIN
Hospital Discharge Planner
Family

 

D) Home amenities and design:

Let’s take a minute and think about the key things you’d like a home for your Person to have or to do. What is non-negotiable and what is nice-to-have? Here are some ideas to get you started – try using a highlighter for must-have, a checkmark ( ✓) for nice-to-have and cross out the ones that don’t apply. Are there any to add that aren’t on this list?

 

Private room Private bathroom Government subsidized or Private Home

 

Geography-what city/cities?

 

Continuum of care or dementia specific home Accessible gardens
On City-bus route

 

A la carte care services or

All inclusive care services

 

Ability to care for all stages of dementia
Palliative care (end of life)

 

Delicious home-cooked meals

 

Dementia specific activities
Nursing staff on 24/7

 

 

Visiting hours and places for family to visit / to dine Can outside care be brought in
In-House Physician Secure – is the home fully safe Type of bathing / personal care services
Laundry services Pets allowed

Stage 2 – Financial Review: 

It will be important to have a good understanding of what the budget is for monthly fees as this may determine whether a private home (no government subsidy and all fees are paid for by the Person) or Long Term Care (“LTC”: government funded, fixed fees) will be the right choice for your loved one.  This is also why it’s helpful to understand the low-and-high fees for a home that is not all-inclusive, to be able to budget accurately. Some families will determine there is the financial capacity to do private care for (example) 2-years and by then their Person may be first on the waiting list for a LTC bed. You could consider asking about what services are included in the monthly fees*

 

Personal care Continence care Medication management
Portering Bathing Lift-assistance
Laundry Snacks and meals Therapeutic or specialty diets
Bathing Feeding Skin/wound care
Dementia specific activities Housekeeping

 

* if not included in the monthly fees, then the best-budget is one where you include the cost of each of these items, in the event that your Person needs them, they’re already in the budget.

 

Stage 3 – Shortlist and Home-Visits

Depending upon finances, you now can look at private or public homes.  Based upon your initial research and review of websites, make a short-list of the top five homes you’d like to visit and call / email them to book a tour. Go to that tour with a solid list of questions that you will ask each home, and write down the answers. Oftentimes there is a lot of information shared at these tours and it can be overwhelming. Taking notes and even bring another person with you to help process the information afterwards. Be sure to ask about the length of waiting list and all the previously mentioned amenities. But mostly, when you walk into a Home – stop for a moment, breath, and let it register with you: “how does his home feel to me?” Many families will say “I knew when we first walked in the door”.

Top 5 Homes to tour & date of tour:

  1. _______________________________________________________
  2. _______________________________________________________
  3. _______________________________________________________
  4. _______________________________________________________
  5. _______________________________________________________

Stage 4 – The Waiting List

Most specialized homes for people with dementia as well as LTC will have a waiting list. The recommendation is to ask how long the list is; is there a cost to go on the list; and what is the process and timing for when a room is offered? It is a good strategy to go on the waiting list for your top-3 homes and see which one comes up first. If you’ve chosen LTC then your LHIN Coordinator can help guide you in how many homes to choose. These homes will likely stay in-touch with you through the waiting time and it’s good to keep them updated on how your Person is doing.

Stage 5 – Saying Yes and Moving Day

It may seem like it takes a while, but the day will come when you’re offered a room. Now you have to decide: accept the room or go to the bottom of the list again. This is a tough decision for most families as they prefer to have their loved one at home, however, the strong recommendation is to say “yes”.  So many times, we have families on the list who say “not yet” and then unfortunately the time comes and it’s then too-late: their Person has changed, had a fall, or becomes palliative.

So you say “yes” – what happens next? There will be an assessment to ensure that the care needs of your Person can be met; an admission package to complete so that the home knows as much as possible about your Person before they move in and a moving-date is set. The moving process alone can feel daunting, but there are transition services out there whose specific job it is to help make the move as easy as possible for the Person and for the family: they are worth the time and money.

Many families will say “we never could have imagined how much better it could be” and that they wish they’d made the decision sooner. The resident will generally adjust to their new home sooner, when they move earlier in the progression of their disease and then they are truly getting the level of care that is most-needed, in a safe and secure environment.

Joy Birch is the Chief Operating Officer of Highview Residences: a specialized care home for people with dementia. Joy draws on personal experiences, research and (mostly) the stories of the families she meets every day, when helping them navigate the process of finding a home.  For a printable pdf version of this article, click here.

Highview Residences will open their second home on the Kitchener- Waterloo site, October 28, 2019.

Call or email today to book your room. 
519-200-3734
Or 
joy@highviewres.com